Wednesday, February 29, 2012

The "Simple" Things


I am SO grateful for electricity and running water!  I thought I was grateful before…I used to pray and thank God for these things…but I had no idea how grateful I am for them.  Please…don’t take these things for granted.  You can even try to go without for a day so that you can more fully understand how lucky we are to reliably have those things.

Yesterday, Marian told me I needed to go to the school to take payments from the boarders who were returning from mid-term break.  It was about  1:30, and she wanted me to go at about 4, so I decided to go for my run at 2, come home and rinse off, go to the school, and then shower when I got home (I knew I’d get sweaty and dusty walking to and from the school…and I didn’t want to use too much water, so I decided not to shower twice).  Well…so glad I decided to rinse off in between because when I came home the second time, there was no more water.  So today…I wore a head scarf because my hair was so oily and gross, even though I really wasn’t digging how I was looking with it on.  The reaction I got was not what I was expecting…haha  = )  First, Melinda said she thought I should take it off because she liked how my hair looked underneath (it took a lot for me to even show it to her).  She said they try to make their hair look that way (later Mandy said she wished her hair produced more oil, too, and that she thought I had just worn the scarf “for life,” which means “for fashion”…haha = )  And then, I got a lot of compliments about looking really “sweet” today from guys who’ve never commented on how I look before…it was so funny to me!

When I went home, I got to talk to Mandy for a long time (it feels like we haven’t really had a good, long conversation for awhile…or maybe it was just that I had gotten so used to being with her all the time over the long weekend that I was just really excited to spend time with her after being gone the whole day).  Anyways…it was interesting because I just, out of the blue, asked Mandy if she’s had a hard time with the fact that blacks couldn’t hold the Priesthood until 1978.  She said that she’s never struggled with it, which surprised me…but her reason surprised me even more.  She said that the church hadn’t been in Africa for too long before that time.  She said, “The Priesthood is the authority to act in God’s name.  It can’t just be given out lightly.  The men here needed time to be ready to receive it.”  I’d never thought of it from that perspective before.  Then right after that, I went into my room and saw an email from my mom with an article and websites regarding that exact matter!...it was crazy!  But yeah…after reading that, I guess the truth is that some questions won’t be completely answered in our time on earth.  I know our Prophets are called of God to be his mouthpiece, so I have faith that the direction they give the church is what God wants, even if I don’t completely understand it.  I guess it makes sense that God knows more than me…haha = )

Tuesday, February 28, 2012

Woman v. African Sun


In the battle of woman v. African sun, African sun proved victorious!  I made the mistake of running at 2 o’clock this afternoon (it’s still midterm break…we get a 4-day weekend = )…and boy did it kick my booty!  I usually love running in the sun!  Something about it makes me feel so alive = )  But I underestimated the power of the sun here.  I should’ve known better, since when I was leaving Marian commented on how Africans don’t do that and then downstairs, Aunty Vero was like, “You’re going running now?!  In this sun?!”…haha = )  But on my run…it kinda hit me why most of the people don’t go running, especially at that time of day.  So many people were out and about, walking, working (sitting at stands selling things, fixing cars, even sewing outside), and sitting – and I kinda felt like I was being rude, choosing to be out in that sun when so many of them had to be.  I thought about the fact that I would get to return home to A/C and a cold shower…but these people I was passing wouldn’t have those luxuries.  It was kind of like, duh!  Of course they’re not going to choose to get all hot and sweaty on purpose when 1)they kind of have to already, and 2) they can’t cool down and get clean easily like I can.

Then I thought about how I was talking to Mandy, Doreen, and Patricia at the party on Saturday about going to the gym.  Patricia goes pretty regularly, Mandy wants to start again, Doreen doesn’t like gyms – it doesn’t matter…the point is, you also have this end of the spectrum.  Going to the gym is kinda like even one level above just running outside, in terms of modern, uh, advances, I guess.  It just must be so hard to live in a developing country, especially when you’re living in the part of society that’s not yet “developed.”  Sorry…it made so much sense in my head, but I’m having trouble putting it into words.  It just seems like, when America was developing, they were at the forefront, so they didn’t have something to compare themselves to.  Here, the people see movies or TV shows showing homes, cars, and other luxuries that they don’t have.  They even see people around them with these things.  It’s so much harder, I think, to know about a different style of living, and yet to still be living in abject poverty.  I mean, on my run I pass literal wooden huts.  These people have no running water, no electricity, dirt floors…and then a couple of streets away I live in the kind of home I do.  I feel like it would be so discouraging.  And it’s like, we come to these countries with our “advanced ways” and try to impose them on the native people, when our ways may not be better.  And even if there is wisdom in our ways, they may not work for those people.  Anyways…it’s not coming out very well, so I’ll stop here (I may have even written about this already; it’s something that’s been on my mind a lot)…but yeah…that’s what was going through my head on my run today.

I'm Running Out of Heading Ideas for Sundays


Church was wonderful…as usual = )  Again…I woke up to church music…and again…it’s the best way to start the morning! = )  In sacrament meeting, the talks were really good…but one in particular stood out to me.  Later, I learned that the sweet lady giving the talk was giving her first talk…which I’m sure added to the beauty of it.  She spoke on modesty…and one thing she said that struck me was that, after Adam and Eve had partaken of the forbidden fruit, God gave them coats of skin to cover their nakedness even though they were the only ones there.  I think I always thought of modesty as necessary for others – like not giving boys inappropriate thoughts or presenting yourself in a clean, presentable fashion.  But if it’s necessary to be modest even when we’re at home by ourselves, it must be that modesty is about much more.  As I thought about it, it’s true that my thoughts and actions often go hand-in-hand with how I’m dressed.  Anyways…just an interesting thought.

I missed most of Sunday School with Mandy and Chichi (poor Mandy…the African wear that the women usually wear to church is not conducive to breastfeeding), but I LOVED the third hour.  It was combined, and we were discussing the talk “The Power of Scriptures” by Richard G. Scott.  It was interesting because during the lesson, I found myself clearly remembering the talk from conference, yet I felt like I was gaining so much new insight.  For example, he says, “Great power can come form memorizing scriptures.  To memorize a scripture is to forge a new friendship.  It is like discovering a new individual who can help in time of need, give inspiration and comfort, and be a source of motivation for needed change.”  I thought this was kind of funny, comparing a scripture to a friend.  But as I sat there, it hit me that the scriptures really have been a trusted friend as I’ve been away from so many friends that I usually lean on.  And how much more constant of a friend would they be if they were committed to memory, so that we could take them anywhere we wanted to go!  I also thought about how often I pray for missionary opportunities, yet we’re told in D&C 11:21, “Seek not to declare my word, but first seek to obtain my word, and then shall your tongue be loosed; then, if you desire, you shall have my Spirit and my word, yea, the power of God unto the convincing of men.”  I think I would be so much more effective if I had more scriptures memorized, so that when I’m talking about the Gospel to people, I’ll be able to, not only have scriptures to quote, but have that promise from the Lord that I can have his Spirit and his word.  Mandy made a comment about how, in Institute, when they’d be discussing doctrine, if people tried to convince others using their own thoughts and logic, arguments often arose.  But if they went directly to the scriptures, the feeling of peace remained and people’s questions were answered.  This goes right along with another of my favorite quotes from the talk, “Our Father in Heaven understood that for us to make desired progress during our mortal probation, we would need to face difficult challenges.  Some of these would be almost overpowering … Throughout the ages, Father in Heaven has inspired selected men and women to find, through the guidance of the Holy Ghost, solutions to life’s most perplexing problems.  He has inspired those servants to record those solutions…”  So we have a book, or rather books, with the answers to all of life’s problems and questions!  Why on earth do we not search them more?  Why on earth don’t we ponder them more?  Why on earth don’t we appreciate them more?  Well…if I keep telling you my favorite parts, I’ll end up quoting the whole thing…so just go read it = )

When we got home it was lights out.  It wasn’t too bad, and it came back on my evening, but then we went to Nana Yaw’s to watch a movie (called “17 Miracles,” I believe) and the power went out in the middle of it = (  I should be more grateful.  We went upstairs to Marian’s apartment where the generator is hooked up to and watched a different movie on her tv (we couldn’t get the original movie out of the player), so what am I complaining about…but later that night, when we went home, it was just SO hot in my room and I was pretty miserable.  The power kept going on for like a couple minutes and I’d feel this huge wave of relief, and then it’d go off again.  It was so frustrating.  But I took a shower at like midnight (I wanted to wait until the power was back on so that I wouldn’t start sweating again after my shower…but it didn’t look like it was gonna be coming on) and laid on my bed as still as possible and prayed that the power would come on, or that I’d be able to fall asleep in the heat, and both prayers were answered = )  I literally started to feel a lot cooler, and then after I had fallen asleep, the power came back on.  It was a miracle = )  

But yeah…back to the movie night.  Natasha made these DELICIOUS vegan peanut butter cookies, and showed me the cook book where she got the recipe from.  She was like, “I think you’ll love this cook book,” and I think she’s right.  The cookies were just oats, peanuts, honey, and vanilla – sounds a bit like my oat cookies, huh? = )  And the movies we watched were both short films from a church history DVD, one about a man named John Tanner and the other about a man named John something.  John Tanner was a wealthy man who had gone to listen to the missionaries to prove them wrong.  He ended up feeling the Spirit so strongly that night, and asked for a copy of the Book of Mormon.  He read it side by side with the Bible, and wanted to get baptized, but couldn’t because of a gross infection that had overtaken his leg.  6 or 7 doctors had all given him the same diagnosis; he would have to amputate it or it would take his life.  He told them he had come into the world with that leg and would leave it with that leg.  But the missionaries asked if he had faith that Christ had healed the lame man at the Pool of Bethesda and that his apostles had healed the lame man outside of the temple, and he said, “Yes.  I know it with every fiber of my being.”  And they told him to arise and walk – and he was able to walk on the leg that hadn’t  been able to carry any weight for six months, and the infection immediately cleared up.  He was baptized, moved to Kirtland, helped pay off the temple debt (he arrived the very day that they were going to repossess the land, answering the prayers of the Prophet Joseph and his apostles), and lived the law of consecration to its fullest.  The other John joined the church with his family in England and went to America to be with the Saints.  He was part of the first handcart company that traveled to Salt Lake City, suffering so much along the way.  When he and his family arrived, they settled in present day Alpine and he received the call to be a stonecutter for the Salt Lake Temple.  Each Monday morning he awoke at 2 am and walked the 22 miles to Salt Lake City, returning home each Friday.  He did this every week, every month, every year…for over 20 years!  When he was 77, he had returned home a little early one Friday evening and went to milk the cow.  She kicked him, shattering the bones in his leg.  He had to have the leg amputated, but during his recovery he fashioned a peg leg and started learning to walk on it.  When his leg had healed, he went back to work on the temple, walking the 22 miles each way on his peg leg!  He died 4 years before the completion of the temple, but his work remains for millions to see – the words “Holiness to the Lord.”  What remarkable men (and wives!) and what great sacrifices they made.  Their faith was so sure – and it was definitely inspiring! (Except that I went back home and had the nerve to complain about the heat and no power – aya…still learning = /)

Monday, February 27, 2012

Shucks...

We haven't had internet all weekend, so today I went to the school to type up my blog entries for Sunday and today...and when I went to post them I found out the school doesn't have internet right now!  And of course...I come home and we have internet now...haha = /  But since it's already typed and saved on that computer I'll just try to post them tomorrow.  Sorry for such a lame one!

Sunday, February 26, 2012

It’s a Party in the USA…uhhh…I mean...Ghana - Hey!

So…today was Mandy’s friend’s dad’s (sister’s uncle’s cousin’s braddah’s…haha) 60th birthday party…and it was SO MUCH FUN!!!!  But it didn’t start out that way.

So…let me rewind to 7:48 this morning.  I woke up.  Now…this isn’t very early, I know…but since I couldn’t fall asleep until like 2:30 the night before/morning of…I was bummed that I had only slept for like 5 hours.  But it was kinda nice.  I was able to enjoy a leisurely breakfast, have time to let it digest, and set off on a run.  Mandy needed some money from the office at school, so instead of making Paa Kofi (her brother) or Charles walk over and get it…I figured I’d just go for a run and get it while I was out.  I was a little worried, though.  I really wanted to go for a run because I haven’t been for awhile…but there was no electricity, and the house was really warm (it’d been off since the previous afternoon), so I knew it’d be hard to cool down (the water temperature can’t be controlled when the power’s out…but at least we get to have water when the power’s out now! = )  But I still decided to go…and my run was awesome!  I went way longer and farther than I’ve been before (in Ghana, at least) and it was SO hot…but SO nice! = )  I figured it was perfect that I had to pick up money on the way home because I could just cool down under the fan in the office.  Everything went according to plan (I stayed under it until I was a little cold, even, because with the sun beating down as hard as it was…I knew I’d get pretty hot on the short walk home) until I got home, and realized that the money that I had so carefully stapled into a makeshift envelope was not in my pocket!  So I quickly turned right back around and walked all the way back to the school and home again, looking like a crazy person staring at the ground.  But it was nowhere to be found = (  I was so bummed because that meant I had to get the money from my funds, and I’ve been trying to be so careful, but oh wells.  And on top of all that, in my haste walking back to the school and home again, I’d gotten really hot again!  So even though I took as cold of a shower as I could, I got out and was still so hot!  Now, I’ve definitely had the experience many times before of getting out of the shower and sweating right away, but I’ve always had a fan or something to ease the discomfort.  This time I had nothing…and it was so uncomfortable; the house was like a hotbox.  And it wasn’t even the heat so much as trying to get dressed up and look cute while dripping = /  I know I’ve always said I’d rather be hot than cold…but I’ve decided that extreme temperatures are no fun, period…haha.  At one point, as I lay with practically no clothes on on my bed, trying to cool down a little, I didn’t even want to go.  I felt so gross and was actually feeling semi-cool lying there, and thought it’d be preferable to just not move, but then I thought about how much I didn’t wanna ditch out on Mandy and how excited I’d been, and got back to getting ready.

Well…I’m SO glad I did, because like I said earlier…I had a blast! = )  We pulled up to this giNORmous green house (they like their colors here =  ) with all of these tents set up in the front yard.  Maame Ama (the girl whose dad’s party it was) came out to greet us and was so excited to see the girls (Mandy’s other friend, Patricia, picked us up with her boyfriend, and a third friend, Dorreen, was also in our car - these are some of the friends who came over the first Sunday I was here).  She escorted us in, sat us down, got us water and “mineral”, and we just relaxed, listened to the music, ate the appetizers on the table (plaintain chips, spring roll type things, roasted peanuts, savory tart things, and “raisin cake” that wasn’t very sweet at all), and chatted.  Mandy’s friends are so fun…and we got along really well…and then it was time for dinner (I thought the food on the table was the meal, so I was already pretty full at this point…haha).  But yeah…dinner was delish! - jollof rice, fried rice, waakye (rice and beans), white rice, fried chicken, fried fish, salad, soup, banku…kinda the standard fare for parties, I’m learning…with no complaints = )  While we ate, this local celebrity who was on like their version of American Idol or X Factor sang, and he was SO good!  He was kinda going around and singing to the ladies, putting on a show, and then he came to our table and grabbed my hand to pull me up to dance…it was SO embarrassing!  But I just went with it (it was kind of an upbeat song, so it wasn’t a slow dance)…and when I sat back down, Mandy and the girls said they were so impressed with my dancing and rhythm…woo-hoo!  I guess they have really low expectations for a white girl’s dancing skills…haha = )  But yeah…it ended up being such a fun night!  And then to top it off…on the way home Mandy talked to Chuks and found out that the power was still off.  But when we got home…it was back on!  It was off soon after, again, but it was so nice that the house was able to be cooled off for a bit = )



Mandy, Chichi and Dorreen

Patricia and Daniel

The beautiful table settings and yummy appetizers

Some shots of the set-up...



ICE!!!!  The first I've had since I got here - mom, you would love that ; )
And the BEST soft drink EVER!!!!  It's pear, and this company also has passion fruit and pineapple.
I haven't tried the pineapple, but the pear and passion fruit are seriously the best liquids I've ever tasted!



The birthday boy and his cake - first cupcakes I've seen since I've been here, too.
And the cake distribution was the same as at the wedding...cut into bite-sized pieces and passed around for everyone to take a piece.  Man...we'd be a different-sized place if that was our custom, as opposed to everyone getting a gargantuan slice.

What a table looks like after a meal in a place where you can't drink tap water

Friday, February 24, 2012

My Day at the Salon

Today was Friday, but we had it off because it was midterm break! = )  So…I went with Mandy to the salon to get a new weave…and it was SO cool!  I always wondered how they do it…I finally get it.  So first they corn rowed her hair…but the braids went around her head…like in lines parallel to her shoulders.  It was amazing how quickly and neatly the girl was braiding.  It was interesting because there were four other girls there…and they were all just standing around watching…and helping here and there.  There are SO many salons here (you don’t even have to make appointments!) and you don’t need to go to hair/cosmetology school or anything…so I’m guessing they were like apprenticing.  Anyways…after there are all these perfect braids going across her head, she starts literally sewing on the strips of hair.  She threads it through the braids she’s just made…and just keeps working her way up the head.  At the top, she used Mandy’s own hair to cover up the sewing.  I don’t know if that makes any sense…it’s hard to explain…but it was really neat! = )

Three of the five girls were wearing these cute matching dresses (I’m guessing their uniform).  It’s so cool, too, how common tailors are (not to mention, it seems like everyone knows how to sew).  For one thing, people get their African-wear sewn just for them, so it always fits perfectly and looks so good!  But it’s also just totally common to alter clothes.  Like Mandy seems to alter almost everything she buys.  And at school, when people are buying uniforms…if we don’t have the correct size, it’s totally normal for people to say they’ll just alter it or get it altered (well…they say alterated).  I wish it was cheaper to get things altered at home!  It’s amazing what a difference it makes when you get clothes to fit you just right!  Even heavier women have such a beautiful shape when the clothes are designed for their body types, giving them beautiful hourglass silhouettes.

The rest of the day was just laundry, cleaning and cooking.  Again…so miss having a vacuum…but it’s like more rewarding once you’re done when you’ve had to sweep and mop and scrub with a hand brush = )  And now my space feels SO good! = )  Cooking was so fun!  We watched Ina Garten make jambalaya, so we made it…altering it a little…and it was SO delish!  We’ve decided jambalaya is a variation of jollof rice…it’s SO similar!  But yeah…I chopped the hot peppers…so even though it’s been hours…my hands are STILL burning = /  Anyways…still working on coming home being able to at least sort of cook = )




Beautiful Mandy and Chichi in front of the salon with her new hair

I loved the salon's sign!

Thursday, February 23, 2012

Blessings in Disguise


Shucks…it’s going to be hard to keep posting everyday without internet at home…sorry!  But I’ll do my best to keep the entries as frequent as possible.

Yesterday was a good day, but today was a great day!  I think this is partly because, instead of getting on the internet (or even writing a blog entry), I went right to bed…so today I felt SO rested and wonderful!  Gosh I love sleep…haha = )  But yeah…thanks mama…you’re totally right.  It’s looking like having no internet is proving to be a blessing in disguise = )  

Anyways…yesterday, the whole day was spent writing letters to the parents who still owe fees, and passing out those letters to hundreds of students with the warning that if they didn’t pay by next week, they’d be sacked.  It was not fun, but at the same time I felt for Marian because she’s trying to run a school, while short on money, because so many families have not paid for their children’s school, lunch, and transport fees.  It’s mid-terms right now…and there are still people who haven’t paid a pesewa (penny…haha)!  Daddy mentioned starting a school…but seeing what it takes to run a school…I’m not so sure I’d ever be up for it.  You have to manage children, parents, and staff…and it’s a huge, never-ending job!  This is also giving me greater admiration for principals and secretaries…but at least in public schools you get the money that you’re promised.  Here, we have to go around begging and threatening the parents in order to get the money we need, for everything from teachers’ salaries to whiteboard markers, fuel for the school vans to soap for cleaning (which we go through absurdly fast because the kids wash their dishes each meal, the floors are mopped each day – and we don’t even use soap for things such as washing hands), electricity to toilet paper.  Anyway…I can’t even begin to describe all of the headaches involved…but they’re endless and major!  I was happy to get all the letters out before the close of school, though, so I felt accomplished = )  I also got to talk to Natasha for awhile while I was printing the letters (the printer here jams if you put in more than one sheet at a time, so printing is quite a time-consuming endeavor…haha), and that was a lot of fun.  We’re experiencing a lot of the same things, being white Americans in Ghana.  I feel bad for her, though, because she has her children to worry about.  If I’m having trouble adjusting to something…I can just tell myself to suck it up.  But you can’t do that with a 1 ½-year-old and a 3-year-old.  Plus, she’s having to learn how to shop and cook here (which, thanks to Mandy = ), I don’t have to worry about…and which seems like one of the hardest adjustments to make).  Anyways…it was really fun getting to know her better!

Today, I came home just feeling so happy!  I’m not sure why exactly – it was a stressful day at work with more angry parents than usual (since those letters just went out), and we had to stay extra late because we couldn’t find the office’s key.  But I was just in such a good mood = )  It’s amazing what a difference attitude can make.  I’ve really been praying hard for charity, especially for angry, difficult people…haha = )…and Heavenly Father’s really been helping me.  I’ve also been praying to be more selfless, and I think it just makes you a lot happier when you’re not worrying about yourself so much = )  

A couple of highlights of the day: I talked to Marian more than I ever have before, and feel like I’m really getting to know and understand her now = )  It never fails, huh?  The more you get to know someone, the more you like them = )  Then on the way home, I ran into Chuks brother and got to talk to him for a long time.  I’ve only talked to him a couple of times before…so it was fun getting to know him better, too!  I found out that his favorite football team is FC Barcelona also…so that was exciting…haha = )  And then when I got home (it was already dark because of the delays), I saw Aunty Vero sitting in the courtyard balancing a pan on her lap (like a circular cookie sheet with a diameter the size of a car tire), with one hand holding a flashlight and the other sifting through a bunch of dried beans.  She said that when the beans are dried, they’re usually just spread on the floor, so when they’re picked up and bagged to be sold, hundreds of tiny little stones are also picked up and mix with the beans.  When you’re making cooked beans for an entire school…this job becomes SO tedious and never-ending!  She said they’d been sifting through the beans since morning!!!!  So I held the flashlight so she could move more quickly and talked to her for a long time also = )  It’s so much fun connecting to human beings on a deeper level than just basic pleasantries = )  So…yeah…the day was pretty unremarkable…but wonderful at the same time = )

Interesting side-note: bluffing doesn’t mean lying here – if a person is bluffing, they’re like a strong personality who always think they’re right…or something like that…haha.